Colossians 3:18-19 “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.”
I was led to these verses at 2:00 in the morning and even then I knew I was in for trouble. Other translations use the word submit instead of subject but either way it comes to me, at first glance, as a control issue. Maybe I see it this way because I have control issues anyway but I know I am not alone in struggling with verse 18. I sat and meditated (long and hard) and I came to realize this is a verse about relationship, not about control. The buck always has to stop somewhere, in any relationship. Whether it is a spousal relationship, a work relationship or a friendship, there is always someone with the last word. The best boss I ever had made me feel like a teammate and collaborator rather than a subject under their control. The building of the relationship and honoring it was so important. As I learn to let go of control, I am able to embrace and celebrate the gifts and strengths of others that the Lord has placed in my life. As I learn to build relationships with others, so I learn to build my relationship with God. Sometimes I am called to bend to the needs and wishes of others. I am also called to bend to the guidance of the Lord. As I prepare to worship the new born King, I must prepare my heart to come on bended knee.
Thank you for bringing me through this passage unscathed. I have always shied away from it; yet, in your grace you guided me and taught me. Help me see the gifts that others bring, enhancing my life. As I let go, reassure me that I am only letting you in where you belong. When all is said and done, I bend to you Lord. You are my Lord and my King. Amen.